Self-Worth and Success: How Belief Shapes Your Future

Self-worth isn’t just about how you feel — it’s about what you create. In this episode, Jaclyn dives deep into the energetic link between worthiness and success, and how low self-worth can quietly sabotage your financial goals, relationships, and dreams. 

You'll learn how to align your frequency with your future self, embody your next-level identity now, and use small, daily proof points to build unshakable belief.
Because success? It’s built at the intersection of belief and self-love.

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Chapters

• 1:57 Welcome to the Self-Worth Discussion
• 4:59 The Power of Belief and Thought
• 9:34 How Low Self-Worth Holds Us Back
• 15:14 Embodying Your Future Self Now
• 20:05 Small Daily Proof Points
• 27:33 Review and Final Thoughts

Transcript

Sam: 0:59

All right, welcome everybody to the Freq Show. I'm here with my beautiful wife, Jaclyn Thurmond. My name is Sam Thurmond and today we are talking about self-worth and success, how belief shapes your future, and this is something that we have talked about numerous times. It's something that we focus on in our own lives, because it is so important how we value ourselves, how we see ourselves, how we talk to ourselves, and how that corresponds and relates to the reality that we experience. So how do you want to kick this off?

Jaclyn: 1:37

Well, I think the first thing that comes to mind is a quote from, I believe, Henry Ford. Well, I think the first thing that comes to mind is a quote from, I believe Henry Ford, and he said something to the effect of whether or not you believe you can is the truth.

Sam: 1:49

You're right.

Jaclyn: 1:50

Yes, whether or not you believe you can, you're right.

Sam: 1:53

Yeah, something along those lines.

Jaclyn: 1:55

So to me and I did a lot of episodes on self-worth guys. They're all in this feed. This podcast used to be called Self-Worth with Jaclyn Steele. You can go and see literally something like 160 episodes that are self-worth focused. So I understand the importance of self-worth and I understand what it's like to struggle with self-worth, but what I have found is what we believe about ourselves is so powerful, like Henry Ford said, and then also what we think about ourselves is so powerful. I think that we are capable of retraining our neural pathways whenever we want something called neuroplasticity, and we have so much power over our own self-worth. It's not something that is in anyone else's hands unless we actively give that power away or think it away.

Sam: 3:07

Yeah, or just not actively have practices in place to where you're continuously making sure that you're cultivating the picture of yourself that you desire, and that's super important, and we both have our own practices, whether it's journaling, meditating, those sorts of things to where we're reinforcing the way we want to feel about ourselves, and it's an exercise. It's just like working out. You have to do it day in and day out and you know this when I'm not doing that consistently, it has a major impact on, uh, me and my output and my creativity and and uh and everything.

Jaclyn: 4:00

So in our relationship too, and vice versa.

Sam: 4:03

Yeah, I get into modes a lot of times where I feel like I just need to grind and I need to put the hours in, and that's true. But oftentimes when I'm in that mode, I lose focus of the big picture, and it's important to come back to that regularly. So how do you feel like low self-worth holds us back financially, relationally and personally?

Jaclyn: 4:28

I mean, there's just no doubt about it. It does, and I think that that can be seen throughout our culture. Every single day. You can walk into a coffee shop and buy the facial expression on someone and I'm not encouraging us to judge other people, but buy someone's facial expression you can kind. I'm not encouraging us to judge other people, but by someone's facial expression you can kind of see what they're thinking about themselves.

Jaclyn: 4:48

Louise Hay also says that as we age, our faces take on the thoughts that we most commonly think right, and I think that that's so true. If we are primarily negative, as we age, our faces are more downturned. We have more frown lines, right. If we are primarily negative, as we age, our faces are more downturned. We have more frown lines right. If we are primarily positive, that also reflects and so, going back to your question how low self-worth holds us back financially, relationally and personally. When we do not love ourselves, when we do not think highly of ourselves, we bring that energy into everything we do.

Jaclyn: 5:30

And so for any of you who are listening right now, who are struggling with self-worth, I recommend that you go back and listen to some of my self-worth episodes.

Jaclyn: 5:44

Tell you that you are worthy and you don't have to believe me in this moment, but there is something unique and special and amazing about you. And, look, I understand that people are born with differences, but my primary belief is that we're all a lot more alike than we are different. So if you see someone doing something really awesome, living the kind of life that you want to live, you are also capable of living that life and doing what they're doing. It might just take some mental changes that create action that then changes your reality. Right, and we talk about this over and over in this podcast and the frequency of belief and the way that I have described the frequency of belief to people is that I have described the frequency of belief to people is know what you want, or decide what you want, act on it and then believe relentlessly that it is yours. If you want to change your self-worth, change what you believe about yourself, change what you believe is possible, that you are capable of.

Sam: 6:41

Yeah. So real world example for me personally. So on a daily basis, I'm having conversations with people in regard to, you know, 5 million, 20 million, 40, 50 million dollar real estate deals, with these commercial deals that I'm working with, and if I go into that conversation feeling like I'm not worthy to be in that room or worthy to have an educated conversation with these people that are doing these sorts of transactions and deals, it reflects in the conversation and it reflects in how they interact with me and how, whether or not they're open to working with me or if they're closed off working with me, I can tell a huge difference.

Sam: 7:29

Like I talked to a guy earlier today who has it's a. He has a RV park, marina, self-storage, all kind of rolled into this one huge, massive commercial property, and I was having the conversation with him and he was taking me seriously, as he should, because I am bringing value to him. He wants to sell his property for $25 million and I know that I am capable of going into my network and bringing that buyer to the table. But there have been other conversations that I've had where I went in not really feeling worthy of or confident in what I could bring to the table and they would be smaller deals you know two $3 million deals. But if I went into that conversation lacking self-worth, it would fall apart because the person on the other end can feel that confidence or that lack of confidence. So it's a real thing and every day when I sit down and I'm going to have these conversations with these people, I have to talk to myself and bump myself up and tell myself that.

Sam: 8:55

I'm worthy that I'm. You know that I'm bringing value to the table in this and it makes all the difference.

Jaclyn: 9:01

And how many moments those of you who are listening, how many moments have you experienced that have been serendipitous. Where you go, I really want to do X and you start to think about that and put that energy out. And then, all of a sudden, somebody approaches you with an opportunity that is connected to that X idea and then something happens. I remember in college I think I've told this story on the podcast before, but I remember in college, my senior year of college, I was dating you.

Jaclyn: 9:32

I hardly had any money for anything beyond like absolute necessity, right. And I said to myself I really need a new sports bra. I have like one or two sports bras. They're getting super nasty. I need a new sports bra, but I don't have the 25 or 30 bucks extra to spend on that right now. And within 24 to 48 hours, one of my closest friends, nicole, came to me and she was like hey, I got this sports bra recently and it doesn't fit me right, do you want it? So that is a very specific example of how the power of thought and our willingness to believe that that thought is possible can create traction and create results very, very, very quickly.

Sam: 10:19

You were worthy of that sports bra. I was worthy of that sports bra yeah.

Jaclyn: 10:24

And I think that's also important. You know, before you go into a difficult conversation or a conversation where you feel intimidated, saying I'm worthy, tony Robbins says to literally put your hand on your chest and feel your heartbeat and get in sync with your heartbeat. Breathe in, feel your heartbeat and get in sync with your heartbeat. Breathe in, breathe out as your heart is beating, and you'll feel a deeper connection to yourself and what you're capable of. So I've done that trick many times too. When I'm like, whew, I am feeling nervous about this. You know, I used to perform full-time. When I was a full-time musician, I would pray before each performance, but I would also do those kinds of things, too, where I would put my hand on my heart and just go hey, this is going to be super fun, I'm going to enjoy every minute. I am not going to worry about what people think of me, I'm just going to sing from the bottom of my heart, because I love to sing. You know, we can always reshape any moment into something that's really positive.

Sam: 11:22

Yeah. So yeah, step one is your worth has to be aligned with your goals. If you do not feel worthy of your goals, you're going to struggle to attain those, and that is the process. I think that that's true, because what that journey does is it develops who you are until you are the person that is worthy of the goal that you are pursuing. That's kind of the whole point, right, yeah.

Jaclyn: 11:51

And I think a caveat to that is if you don't feel worthy the quote competence breeds confidence. Even if you don't feel worthy, take the first step. Do something that is beyond your comfort zone, and the more you do that, the more competent you become, in whatever field that is, the more confidence you will gain, the more self-worth you will feel. So it can be a baby step. It can be as little as dialing somebody up and saying, hey, I want to talk to you about this, or going to the gym or I don't know, purchasing a class on social media because you want to learn how to create a marketing business. Take that first step, even if you don't feel worthy, and then watch how your competence breeds confidence.

Sam: 12:41

Yeah, yeah, it works both ways. You know, sometimes just taking action is the key, because a lot of times we don't know which way to go. But if we just take action, things will reveal themselves out there and taking a leap of faith and just saying, hey, I don't know how I'm going to do this, but I'm going to do it. And you start taking action. It gets the ball rolling and things start falling into place.

Jaclyn: 13:10

Paolo Coelho, the author of the Alchemist, says that when you decide what you want, the whole universe conspires on your behalf. But you have to decide what you want and you have to start taking action. If you're only thinking about it, it doesn't work. You have to think about it, you have to take action on it and you have to believe it's possible.

Sam: 13:28

You're spitting quotes today.

Jaclyn: 13:31

They're just always swirling around in there.

Sam: 13:34

So okay, so we are connecting our worthiness to our frequency or to your goal, and we talked a little bit about how we embody our future self.

Jaclyn: 13:44

Now I like to think of that too. As a person with an arrow like, whatever your goal is, you want to match that frequency. So take that energetic arrow and point it in the direction that you want to go and shoot it. And you may not hit the target the first try, but at least you're trying. And every time you try you're going to get better and better and better and better.

Sam: 14:08

Yep. So step three is small daily proof points that build belief.

Jaclyn: 14:14

Well, I think we should talk a little bit more about how to embody your future self now. So you said connect worthiness to your frequency. And then I just did the metaphor of the arrow. Even if you don't feel like you can connect your worthiness to that frequency yet, just take baby steps every single day. Start to retrain your mind. Louise Hay says that everything good in our personal healing whether that's physical, mental, spiritual, it stems from self-love. That's physical, mental, spiritual. It stems from self-love. If you start talking to yourself with love and start treating yourself with love, everything in your life will change. Everything, everything, everything. So step two let's talk about how to embody your future self now.

Jaclyn: 14:58

We but one of my greatest spiritual teachers, Banya, told me this about four years ago. She was like Jaclyn. Whoever you want to be in five years, think about her. How does she talk to herself, how does she feel, how does she dress? And I started to describe that person, I started to picture her in my mind and she stopped me and she goes you can be that now, you can embody that now. You can begin any moment and do that every single day. And that was such a profound statement. We don't have to wait to become who we want to be. We can be that person now. We can start to embody that person now. We can think those thoughts, we can eat those foods, we can embody those habits right now and that's very powerful.

Sam: 15:58

So one thing that I do every morning is in my journal.

Sam: 16:04

I basically write out what's going to happen that day, and if you go to the first page of my journal, it is I wrote out my ideal day. So from the second I wake up all the way until I go to bed at night. I wrote out what my ideal day is, and so I look through that every morning and then I go to the present day and write out how that day is going to play out. But what I found helpful was and I told you about this was, after I had written out my ideal day, I realized that I'm already living like 90% of that day, and so there are just little things here and there that I want to bring into reality. But what I can do is those things that I have control over. I can start doing them. I can do that in my day. I don't have to wait for that to happen.

Sam: 17:07

I can start putting those pieces in my day and what I'm finding is the more that I do that, the more that I more or less force my day to align with my ideal day, the more other things start to fall into place. So, like I start putting some pieces in there and then some of the other pieces that maybe are somewhat beyond my control or that I can't make happen now they start to kind of fall into place as well. So I think getting that clear picture of your definite aim, where you're going, how you want your reality to, what you want that to look like, getting that clear picture is so important, that to look like Getting that clear picture is so important. And then those little pieces of that that you can do today, like you're saying, be that today.

Sam: 17:56

When you start plugging those in. It has a snowball effect.

Jaclyn: 18:01

Well, going back to the Paolo quote, once you decide what you want, the whole universe conspires on your behalf, and so as you start to take action, these serendipitous, magical moments occur. Also, I call that future frequency composing, that journaling approach where you write out your future, you write out your day and how it's going to look. You write out your week and how it's going to look. You can write out your next five minutes and how you want them to look. I find it's a great reset button and if you're interested in more on that, there is a calibration in the free gap about it. I did a whole calibration on future frequency composing. I think it's called something about your future self. But if you are into these mindset shifts, just a plug for the free app. You really would enjoy interacting with it, because that's what the Freq app is all about Taking you from one frequency and raising you to another.

Sam: 18:59

Yeah, yeah, okay. So ready for step three. Ready for step three. Small daily proof points that build belief.

Jaclyn: 19:07

Beautiful, yeah. What do you think are some small daily proof points that build belief? Beautiful, yeah. What do you think are some small daily proof points that build belief? I can call one out right now.

Sam: 19:17

Okay.

Jaclyn: 19:27

You were writing down what your ideal day looks like and then writing down how you want your day to go frequency wise and otherwise, and belief wise and then you realized 90% of my day is already exactly what I want. That is a proof point.

Sam: 19:34

Yeah, absolutely.

Jaclyn: 19:36

Another proof point. Going back to the sports bra story, I said, hey, I've got to get this new sports bra. I don't have the money for it, but I just have a feeling something's going to work out. And then within 48 hours I had a new sports bra.

Sam: 19:50

Well, a good book that I think we both read a couple of years ago, or maybe it was probably like three months ago. Knowing how my timeline recall goes, but was called the Gap and the Gain.

Jaclyn: 20:03

I never read that one Okay.

Sam: 20:04

So the whole premise of the book is, you know, we tend to always be looking forward to how far we have to go versus how far we've come. So the whole concept of the book was, instead of always future tripping on how much has to happen in order to get to our ultimate goal, that we consistently stop and assess how far we've come. So if you're consistently taking time to evaluate all the things that you have accomplished, how far you have come, all the challenges that you've overcome, you start to build that appreciation.

Sam: 20:45

And that's that proof. Those are proof points as far as building on those and moving forward. And one you know, just building confidence and worth and knowing that you will get where you're going, because you've already gotten this far.

Jaclyn: 21:02

Yeah. Another like add on to that is you are allowed to be your biggest cheerleader. You are allowed to celebrate your wins, you're allowed to go. Hey, I just got this monumental contract and I'm so proud of myself, I'm so proud of how far I've come in the last three months, in the last six months, in the last year. I'm so proud of the mom I'm becoming. Am I perfect? No, but do I love my son and does my son know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I love him? Yes, and I can be so happy about that and so proud of myself, even just small wins, as silly as this sounds.

Jaclyn: 21:50

I'm celebrating my sourdough starter, because I have tried to make a homemade starter. This is my third attempt since we got the flour mill right and the first two attempts failed. This one is working and I'm so excited. And the first two that failed, no big deal whatever. I've never done it before. I'm not going to expect perfection, but now, on this third try, I'm like I am patting myself on the back because it took a little bit to figure out.

Jaclyn: 22:20

There was some science and some measuring involved. I think it's so important. Other people most likely, unless they are very close to you and are very self-aware and have the energy to give. They're not going to be your biggest cheerleader. You're allowed to be your own biggest cheerleader and I would encourage you to do so. That will enhance your self-worth. That will enhance those daily proof points that build self-belief, because when you call yourself out for the good things, you're doing not just the bad things, which most of us do and I'm guilty of too.

Jaclyn: 22:53

I've also done that this week I had a flub with a dishwasher for a client. But when I focus on all of the amazing decisions I've made, like the 3,000 right decisions versus the one wrong one and I was talking to my friend Luba about this too one wrong one, and I was talking to my friend Luba about this too I get to choose. Do I want to focus on the one wrong one or the like literal 3000 right decisions that I made? I am retraining my brain now to think about all of the right, all of the wonderful decisions that I've made. Am I going to fix the wrong one? Absolutely, but am I going to dwell on that and beat myself up for the next three months?

Sam: 23:32

No, no, well, I mean, I think that that embodies self-worth on a whole is being your own cheerleader, high five.

Jaclyn: 23:46

Okay, well, let's just do a little bit of a review. So today we've talked about self-worth and success and how belief shapes your future. We talked about connecting your worthiness to your frequency and shooting that arrow to whatever frequency you want to live at Name it, call it out, journal it, think about it, obsess over it, put it on note cards. You may not hit it today, but you will hit it. If you keep focusing on it, you will reach that frequency and the universe God we believe in Jesus will assist you in getting there. It may be a process, it may take a little time, but you're going to get there, okay, so that was one Connect your worthiness to your frequency. Two, how to embody your future self. Now we talked about how we are allowed to be that person. Think like that person, embody their habits, dress like that person. Now. We don't have to wait five years. We don't have to wait a year. We don't have to wait six months. We can start acting like that person now.

Jaclyn: 24:43

Then step three small daily proof points that build belief. This is going to be the bedrock of your self-worth If you want to go from zero to 300 in a day very hard to do, I'm not saying it's impossible. Nothing is impossible. But if you want to increase your self-worth, start with some self-love. Start by cheering yourself on. Start by stopping yourself in those negative thought loops where you're berating yourself or beating yourself up, and begin to shift those thoughts daily.

Jaclyn: 25:19

If you want some help with that, again, the Freq app is amazing. You don't have to listen to us, but if you want to, we are there for you. We're a pocket best friend, right? But those daily proof points, those daily check-ins with yourself, that daily cheerleading yourself to go and be who you feel you are meant to be makes such a huge difference. Every single morning, when we wake up, we have a decision we can go back to our old way of doing things, whether or not that served us, or we can choose to become the person we know we're meant to be and take the steps forward in doing that Right. Okay, our belief changes everything, everything, everything, everything, everything Whether you believe it's possible or not, is true.

Sam: 26:10

Yep.

Jaclyn: 26:11

Okay, question two. Well, actually, one more note. Success is built at the intersection of belief and self-love, and that is just absolutely true. You have to believe you're worthy, you have to believe that what you want is possible, and then you have to treat yourself like the person who is worthy of that and who is loved up enough to embody that Right, okay, so question for you today, for the audience. I'm just going to go off the cuff here.

Sam: 26:46

I have one.

Jaclyn: 26:46

Oh, okay, you go for it.

Sam: 26:47

Surprise surprise, I have one. Oh, okay, you go for it. Surprise, surprise. So what I would say, or what I would suggest, would be to ask yourself if your worthiness is aligned with your goals.

Jaclyn: 27:03

Okay, and then I'll ask a secondary one. And if it's not, what can you do to change that? Yeah, all right, thank you so much for listening. So much love to you guys. Live on purpose, live on frequency, and we will catch you in the next episode. Thank you so much for listening to the Freq Show with Sam Thurmond and me, Jaclyn Steele Thurmond. We would love to connect with you via our website, beckonlivingcom, and on social media.

Sam: 27:34

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